In Rostov-on-Don, mother and father (both with higher education) disowned their 14-year-old son for being a poor student.
Alexander and Yelena E. appealed to the guardianship services, asking to deprive them of their parental rights because of their son’s absenteeism and poor academic performance.
Despite all the entreaties and work with psychologists, who tried to reconcile the teenager with his parents, they did not change their mind.
Mother who works as an accountant in ЖКХ [ed: Russian services of housing and public utilities] and father, an employee of the Russian Postal Service, explained their decision simply: the boy doesn’t study well and constantly misses the lessons.
- Parents were not able to cope with the child. He was often absent from the school, studied poorly and often ran away from home, – said an employee of the guardianship services in the education department of Rostov, Yekaterina Basova. – We tried to persuade the parents. Psychologist worked with the family, but it did not help.
Even son’s pleading in court couldn’t relent their hearts. During the last meeting the child asked his mother and father to forgive him and allow him to return home. But the parents were adamant.
- I am a Don Cossack. I and my wife have three older children and all of them are fine. Artyom was stealing money from us. I am giving up, because I don’t want to be responsible for someone’s else misdeeds, – shared his sorrows the 57-year old Alexander E. – Our older sons and daughter have completely supported me. But our friends were surprised by the decision, and some people did not approve it.
Now Artyom rarely communicates with his father in social networks. All conversations lead to the same topic: the newly orphan requests to take him back from the orphanage, but his own father and mother don’t even want to hear about it.
- We don’t believe that he has rehabilitated, – continues Alexander. – It’s not our fault, we have raised three fine children. Our middle son even worked in police.
Eventually, under the pressure of parents who refused to bring up the child, the guardianship services deprived them of their parental rights.
Comments of Russian netizens
Docdoc: Parents are themselves not smart. They had to donate the son for organs: would help themselves and other people.Родители сами двоечники. Сына надо было сдать на органы: и себе бы помогли, и людям.
qwe150: There was no love for the child; children understand it and hence they behave amorally to make the parents pay attention to them.не было любви к ребенку, а дети это понимают вот и стараются вести себя аморально лишь бы родители как- то на них внимание обратили.
onon: How should one annoy the relatives to be disowned? Though, maybe in Russia the graduates of orphanages are still given free apartments? Maybe that is the reason? Это как же надо довести родных, чтобы от тебя отказались? Хотя, в России еще выдают жилплощадь сиротам, покинувшим интернат? Может в этом и кроется ответ?
Камилла: I am shocked! What’s going on!!! My son also wasn’t a good student, sometimes he didn’t listen to us, but we have never thought to disown him or give to someone. How come!!! Now he is 18, student in university.Я в шоке!Это что ж творится!!!У меня сын тоже не был отличником,бывало,что не слушался нас,но чтоб мы с мужем подумали хоть раз его куда-нибудь и кому-нибудь отдать,да никогда в жизни!!!Сейчас ему 18 лет ,учится в институте.
[Note: that's a paraphrased quote from "The Little Prince" which is very popular in Russia]
Глеб Ананальны: They did the right thing, TV, internet teach teens in such way that they become totally unmanageable.И правильно сделали,ТВ,интернет так воспитали подростков,что они становятся неуправляемыми вообще
Елена: I think that it was a very unjust act of parents to their son. The guy is going through a transition period, he needs help, they had to “endure” it somehow. And now … he will simply become embittered towards his parents and life in general … That’s just another broken life … Such a pity (((Думаю, что это очень несправедливый поступок родителей по отношению к своему сыну. У парня переходный период, ему надо помочь, как-то ‘перетерпеть’ это время. А так… он просто озлобится и на родителей своих , и на жизнь в дальнейшем… Еще одна поломанная судьба… Очень жаль (((
Мама: I simply can’t comprehend it … Father – well, okay… but mother! How could they? Even animals wouldn’t do that! We all have problems, but they should not be solved in such way! (Wish you) become a good man, son, in spite of everything!Это просто не укладывается в голове…Ладно отец, но мать!Как так можно-даже животные так не делают!У всех бывают проблемы, но решать их надо не таким способом!Стань хорошим человеком, сынок, всем на зло!